Parents.

Sometimes, you can’t help but think, are my parents really on my side ? ,

 We all, teenagers, are going through our transition phase. It is a constant look and chase for who we truly are. 

We start forming our opinions, personality, mannerism, style etc….

The majority of us go through this phase with our parents on our side.

I agree that sometimes parents might be a little intrusive to our ‘personal space’, they might not understand you, you might be arguing with them at this right instant, but you have got to understand them and their feelings, and they surely need to match that. I mean, this is their first time being parents to you, as an individual. In their eyes, you are a little treasure that they need to protect with all their power and will. 

You are not the victim of your parents. Most parents cherish their children and love them to their core and bones. We all hear the stories of mothers when they first hold their babies, and how all the pain disappears once they see their little delicate faces. This love, may often be the cause of their overprotective instincts, and it might also disguise as tough love. 

You might think that their decisions are harsh, horrible, not ethical to today’s modern world, but you gotta understand them. 

Lots of factors are playing within the relationship with your parents. Your ‘problems’ might be because of generational conflicts, I mean, they grew within a very different era than ours. So they are still adapting to such changes. 

It’s not that cool to have ‘mommy issues’ or ‘daddy issues’ for fun. It is often romanticized within social media and school, but people who truly suffer from that are not living comfortably, they have a gap and an empty space that can only be fulfilled with parents. 

So if you are reading this, Try to be responsible, love them and respect them. They gave you life, and work everyday to be able to have food on the table. They might not be very affectionate, but there are tons of different love languages. 

My parents are very great, They have their flaws, but I can’t help but love them, knowing all what they do for me. I feel horrible whenever I disappoint them or make them mad, sometimes I fee l like a brat when I rethink a situation that has taken place and I disrespected them by yelling. I don’t do it on purpose I just get heated within the beat of the moment, but I make sure to apologize and make up for it. If my mom for example ever did me wrong (rarely btw), she makes sure to say sorry…. But in her love language : food. She tells me ‘come eat’, which automatically translates to, ‘sorry for earlier’. 

Us teenagers, and parents, are such complicated creatures… But oh well. 

Love your parents, they are the only humans that you can truly rely on (most of the time). 

Our parents also go through a transition phase. We are no longer their babies. 

The changes are hard for both parties.

So, try to make it easier on them, and give them this page to read, so it’s fair for both parties.